Luke 18:9-14 – He also told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous and regarded others with contempt: “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee, standing by himself, was praying thus, ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other people: thieves, rogues, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give a tenth of all my income.’ But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even look up to heaven, but was beating his breast and saying, ‘God, be merciful to me, a sinner!’ I tell you, this man went down to his home justified rather than the other; for all who exalt themselves will be humbled, but all who humble themselves will be exalted.”
It’s easy to be like the Pharisee. “Thank God I’m not poor and homeless, and I’d never cheat on my wife, like my neighbor did. I’m a community leader and respected by everyone. I tithe and go to church every week. I’m a good Christian.”
Even when we know we aren’t all that God intends, it’s also hard to feel penitent like the tax collector. Our sins aren’t that bad most of the time, are they? A little lie here, a little cheat there, some disrespect or unkind words. Nothing that makes us an outcast. And certainly nothing that makes us beat our chest and beg for mercy. We justify that our sins are more like minor misdemeanors, not felonies.
But sin separates us from God and those we love. One small brick at a time, we build a wall of little sins and shame. Before we know it, the wall blocks out God’s love and mercy. We may not have swindled boldly like the tax collector, but our stack of small sins weighs heavily and keeps us from living in God’s light.
Humility helps us break down the wall we have built and join the circle again. When we say, “I was wrong. I knew what I said would hurt you, but I said it anyway. Please forgive me,” we make ourselves vulnerable. Our apology may be rejected, but usually, when we risk humility, we redeem our relationship with God and the person we wronged. And the wall of sins starts to come down.